All addicts have self destructive behavior, but if there was a scale of 1 - 10, Keven would be a 10 plus. Right now he's doing very well, its like having my real son back.
I know its only been two months, but I am allowing myself to feel good, hopeful and happy about his sobriety. It could all come crashing down, but then again, maybe it won't.
What did it take for him to get where he is today? I don't know for sure, but I think almost dying this last time really got to him. I think he realized there is no such thing as a "friend" that uses with you. Drug buddies are not friends, they will dump you and call 911 if they are decent human beings, but before they make that call they will steal all your stuff as you lie in the gutter turning blue.
He's been through a lot (see below) and I think some of these things helped him get further down the path to wanting to end the drug life. Everyone is different. Some people need to go to meetings every day, some do fine without NA or AA (although I think that's rare). Some respond to treatment, some don't. Some get scared straight in jail, most just get acclimated to it.
I still pray for the list of addicts and their parents that I have had in my "little book" for years. Some I've lost touch with, but I still care and always will.
I don't think one size fits all in recovery. I see Keven doing it his way and it seems to be working for him so far.
History of Rehabs, etc:
- Phoenix House, court appointed, completed 90 days
- Cornerstone, we spent thousands on this place. He completed 90 days but relapsed there when he moved to the next phase:(
- Unidos, court appointed, 90 days
- Unidos, private pay, ?? 60 days?
- Able to Change, left after 2 weeks and several thousand dollars
- Pat Moore, left after 2 weeks
- 10 Acre Ranch, 30 days
- Plus two Sober Livings that lasted a week or two each
He's been in the Mental Health Unit of the hospital for several 5150's and once for ten days after a serious bath salt-induced psychosis.
He's been in the regular hospital too many times to count, for OD's, infections, etc.
He almost died twice, that I know of.
And then there's jail time. I just counted it up from a doc. his attorney sent me (yes, thousands of dollars went to her as well).
He spent a total of 344 days in county jail from June 09 - July 12. (holy crap that's almost a year)
Never give up hope.
Hope and Love, Barbara